The couple’s quarrel is  ...

Most of the time, the couple’s quarrel starts with something very small and gets bigger and bigger.

“Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam” (Prov. 17:14).

When the water starts to leak from the dam, we need to stop the leaking the dam quickly.

The couple must drop the matter before a dispute breaks out (v. 14).

Why don’t they drop the matter?  It is because of their desires that battle within them (Jam. 4:1).

There is lust in these desires that battle within us (v. 2).

If that lust is not being satisfied, then we have no choice but to become peace-breakers

By disobeying God’s commands in discontent and complaint.

The couple who are driven by these desires are the ones who love a quarrel

And the ones who raise their door for destruction (Prov. 17:19).

We must repent.