What a man wants
What a man wants (1)
The first thing a man wants is "Conquest": ‘Be grateful for his desire to work and accomplish" (Emerson Eggerich, "Love & Respect ").
The man has desire to work and accomplish (Eggerich). That’s why to the man who wants to satisfy his needs, his job is very important. However, a woman seems to not understand this desire of the man. This is because woman and man have different orientations. In other words, because the man is work-oriented and the woman is her husband-oriented, the woman doesn’t understand her husband's desire to work and accomplish. Isn’t it strange that the husband-oriented wife doesn’t understand her husband's work-oriented aspects? One of the reasons is because of the woman's desire for her husband. In other words, the woman doesn’t understand her husband's work-oriented aspect because she is more willing to demand her husband-oriented desire than to understand and help her husband's work-oriented desire. When she feels that her husband likes work more than her, she cannot understand her husband. Furthermore, she even feels that her husband doesn’t love her. But it’s not that he doesn’t love his wife. He loves his wife, but he only has the desire to work and accomplish.
The wise wife who understands this need of her husband encourages him because she respects him. She should express her gratitude to her husband for working hard for her and their children: ‘Honey, thank you. Although I don’t I can understand you perfectly, I appreciate you going to work every day. I really admire you’ (Eggerich). This kind of praise and encouragement from the beloved wife is great strength to her husband. And the man will work harder for his beloved wife and the children. However, the woman who is not wise may say that she respects her husband, but she is dissatisfied with her work-oriented husband because she does not understand him who likes to work. Furthermore, she distrusts her husband rather than acknowledging and praising his enthusiasm and hard work. This unwise wife is a great obstacle to her husband who has passion to conquer. He cannot do his best at his work because his wife doesn’t trust him. That’s how much the wife’s trust is great to her husband.
The wise woman who understands her husband’s desire to work and accomplish satisfies his desire and expresses to him her trust in him and encourages him by saying that his efforts for work are invaluable to her. Moreover, the wise woman sees her husband’s potential and edifies him. She encourages her husband to dream. And if he already has a vision, then she stands beside him, helps him and encourages him to advance his vision. She listens to her husband well when he talks about his work. As she does so and as she gets to know his heart, she lets her husband knows that she understands his heart. And she lets him know that she totally trusts him. Therefore, she helps her husband to work harder.