Man's behavior that drives a woman crazy (4)
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‘Why would a man keep the toilet seat up?’ [Allan & Barbara Pease, "Why Men Lie & Why Women Cry"]
I still remember when I was in college, an advisor at a Christian club told us the students that a married couple can have conflicts because of a toilet seat. When I heard that, I thought ‘How could you fight over the toilet seat?’ That’s why we have to get married to find out. Haha.
When we look at marital conflict, we see that it starts out as a very trivial thing. For example, a pastor said that he had argument with his wife because of toothpaste. He used toothpaste by squeezing the bottom of the toothpaste, while his wife used toothpaste by squeezing the middle or top of the toothpaste. So in the end the pastor bought two toothpastes and the couple used them separately. I think it is a wise way to avoid the marital conflict. I am sure it sounds a little funny (especially if you are before marriage or honeymoon) but it is true. The marital conflict starts with a very small thing and it gets bigger. And one of those trivial things is the toilet seat. According to Allen & Barbara Pease, when the man put up the toilet seat, the woman goes crazy. I agree. For example, how would you feel when your husband used the toilet and didn’t put the toilet seat down and you went to the restroom to pees in early in the morning, didn’t turn on the light, you sat down on the toilet seat and your felt something cold? And you came back to the bedroom and saw your husband sleeping comfortably on the bed? Wouldn’t you be angry? The problem is this didn’t happen just once but very often. How would you feel? What would you do if your husband keeps on putting the toilet seat up even though you told him several times not to do so? Would you like to make two toilets in a bathroom like a kindergarten toilet? Haha.
I think the bathroom is changing these days. Previously, the toilet was divided into man and woman. Nowadays, when we go to restaurants, there is only one bathroom and one toilet. Nowadays, there are more unisex toilets. Of course, it is true that some unisex bathrooms have an urinal installed on the wall for men to urinate. However, there are many small bathrooms where only a toilet seat is installed. According to Allen & Barbara Pease, it is because of cost savings and space maximization (Pease). In this trend, the narrower and financially difficult countries will increasingly prefer unisex toilets. Then, wouldn’t more men and women be irritated by the toilet seat? Also, wouldn’t more men sit on the toilet seat and pee? What if they forget to put the toilet seat up and misaim the urination and the toilet seat got wet? I am sure the women will be frustrated and even be angry. What if your husband put the toilet seat down for you but he made it wet and forgot to wipe it? What if you sat on it and your hip got wet? What if he does it not only once or twice but keep on doing it?
My wife and I have never been fought because of the toilet seat. But I was concerned that my son often urinated without putting the toilet seat up. Yesterday I noticed that he, who woke up at dawn, pissed without putting the toilet seat up and went to his room to sleep without flushing it. Haha.