What woman wants (5)
The fifth thing that the woman wants from her husband is "loyalty". The wife wants to know that her husband is dedicated to her. Not only does she want to know, she also wants to reaffirm it by asking her husband “Do you love me?" But the husband who receives that question from his wife often fails to realize that his wife is trying to reaffirm his loyalty and dedication to her. As a result, the wife keeps on trying to reassure her husband that he is loyal and devoted to him because her husband makes her more insecure than to make her heart secure. So the husband must express his love to his wife naturally in her position so that his wife can have a sense of security. One of those methods is proposed by Dr. Emerson Eggerich in his book "Love & Respect":
‘When a husband makes a covenant with God and tries to imitate Jesus in every area of his life,
including their marriage, then she feels more secure. When she is confident about her husband's
love and loyalty, she gets energized and motivated. This is the way God made her, and the marriage covenant is based on loyalty until death separates them.’
In order for the husband to make his wife to feel secure, he must strive to resemble Jesus Christ diligently. In other words, when the husband becomes like Jesus by loving Him and be loyal to Him, his wife will enjoy a sense of security. At that time, the wife will get energized and motivated.
The husband must be loyal to the Lord. When he does so, he can be a loyal husband to his wife. And the loyal husband will never make his wife insecure. He will never look at another woman greedily and affair with her. He is devoted to love his wife with the love of Jesus. He places priority on marriage with his wife and also recognizes what is important to his wife. In the midst of that, he shows his dedication to the family as he continues to devote to his wife. In doing so, the wife's heart enjoys a sense of security through her husband's love. Therefore, she also respects her husband more.