The balanced relationship

The couple was created to rely on each other.  But if we rely more on our spouse than God, we can never build a healthy family.  In relying on our spouse, we must maintain balance.  It is not a healthy couple relationship if we rely too much on each other to be independent of God.  There needs to be some free space between husband and wife.  The purpose of that free space is to free each other so that they can go to God individually.  The husband and wife should rely on each other but they need independence.  When we think of the triangle, it is easy for us to understand that the couple gives each other a free space.  If the top corner is God, the left corner is the husband, and the right corner is the wife, the husband should give his wife the free space for her to get closer to God by respecting her personal relationship with God and the wife should do the same to her husband by respecting his personal relationship with God.  As we abstain from excessive reliance toward each other and give space to each other so that we can depend on God first, we can maintain the balanced and healthy marriage based on true bond and intimacy.