Prepare your marriage!

 

 

Marriage preparation (1):

 

 

"Our society seems to spend more time preparing for a wedding than preparing for a marriage" (Dr. Gary Collins).

 

                

I agree with what Dr. Collins said.  It seems many singles are investing more time in preparing for their wedding than preparing their marriage.  It seems they think a lot about who to meet for their future spouses have what kind of wedding and so one but do not know how to prepare themselves for their marriage.  It seems like they know how to prepare for their wedding, but they do not seem to know how to prepare their marriage.  When I think about preparing for marriage, I personally think that we should prepare ourselves more than our future spouse.  In other words, I think that we should prepare ourselves before God in terms of what kind of spouse we should be to him or her rather than keep on praying and expecting for what kind of future spouse that we want to meet.  In order to do that, we must first develop good habits of examining ourselves before God and reflecting ourselves by the Word of God.  The habit of reflecting ourselves by the Word of God is essential in preparing for marriage.  As we do so, we must devote ourselves in personifying the Word of God in our lives.  If we do not keep on personifying the Word of God, then we will not be able to discern the future spouse whom God has prepared for us.  We will just praying and looking for a future spouse whom we desire or want instead of God’s desire and His will.  How can we expect to see our future spouse who is transforming if we ourselves are not transforming?  In order to cultivate ourselves well, we must constantly check our own faith life and faithfully devote ourselves to the Word of God and prayer.  As we do so, we will be able to pray rightly with right expectation and look for our future spouse whom God has prepared with the right perspective.  Therefore, when God leads us to meet our future spouse, the indwelling Spirit will give us clear conviction.  We will not run about in confusion.