"The truth is that we fail to confront,
not because we love others too much,
but because we love ourselves too much.
We fear others misunderstanding us
or being angry with us.
We are afraid of what others will think.
We don't want to endure the hardships of honesty
because we love ourselves more than we love our neighbors."
[Paul David Tripp, "INSTRUMENTS IN THE REDEEMER'S HANDS"]