The wife's resentment and the husband's fault?

Sarai said to her husband Abram,

"The Lord has kept me from having children.

Go, sleep with my maidservant; perhaps I can build a family through her."

As a result, Hagar conceived and became proud, despising her mistress Sarai.

Then Sarai said to Abram, "You are responsible for the wrong I am suffering.

I put my servant in your arms, and now that she knows she is pregnant, she despises me.

May the Lord judge between you and me."

As a result, Sarai mistreated Hagar, so Hagar fled from her

(Genesis 16:1-6).

When considering the three people in this story—

Abram, his wife Sarai, and Sarai's maidservant Hagar—

it's clear that Sarai's words and Abram's response to them

led to a relationship between Sarai and Hagar

that ended in contempt and mistreatment.

Personally, I see Sarai's statement,

"You are responsible for the wrong I am suffering," in two ways:

• Sarai resented her husband Abram

because she tasted the bitter fruit of her own words and actions.

• Abram should not have followed Sarai's suggestion, so in that sense,

her claim that it was his fault is valid.